Whoever said that “women can have it all,” clearly never had to pick up an over-tired child from daycare. I couldn’t have felt worse yesterday if I had tried. I could have probably run over a family of ducks (make sure the image you have of this has lots of little baby duckies) and felt better than I did picking May up from daycare. Women have been done a great disservice by being told that we can be a wife, mother AND a career-girl. While it’s definitely true, we’re probably not as good at all three at the same time as we would be if we were doing each three independently. It’s unfair.
And to quote the most profound and ground-breaking women’s lib movie of our time, “Titanic,” (insert laughter here____), “Of course it’s unfair. We’re women. Our choices are never easy.” So simple, succinct and true.
I know that the key to being a working mother is finding balance, but it still doesn’t make it any less difficult. I am very fortunate that I am able to stay home with May most days, but I’m also forced to think about my career in the future. There is going to come a day when May goes to pre-school and I’ll be left at home all alone, and folks, that is something Tybee DOES NOT WANT. Since my field changes so quickly, having a part time job helps me keep my skill current in order to be employable down the line. It’s a shame that I have to think this far in the future, but like the true power B I am, I’m always two steps ahead of the game. Haha, just kidding. Not really. I swear though, if I had it my way, I’d be a 24-7 Cam Tucker from Modern Family:
However, if this daycare situation doesn’t improve, I will be a 24-7 Cam again. Plenty of women have to do it (put their kiddos in daycare), but I’m not sure my nerves can take it. Hats off to them… because they are tough. Which leads me to my next thought…
Why haven’t we had a female president yet?
All I’m saying is that the math on having it all doesn’t add up to 100%. Each piece of the pie has a sizable chunk taken out. Maybe the trick is to realize that there is no such thing as having it all. The sooner women realize this, the sooner we can make peace with the decisions we have to make as wives, mothers and bread winners (although I am so far from a bread winner that it’s not even funny).